23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23

This is the best thing I’ve read in a long time. Preach.

Wander Onwards

Marriage

As 2013 wraps up, I’ve been noticing more and more people getting engaged and/or married under the age of 23.

I get it.

It’s cold outside… you want to cuddle and talk about your feelings… life after graduation is a tough transition… so why not just cut to the chase and get married, right?  It’s hip. It’s cool. You get to wear clothing that wouldn’t normally be socially acceptable at the dive bar you frequent with the $5 beers.  Eff it. YOLO. YOMO! You only marry once…

Oh wait.

The divorce rate for young couples is more than twice the national average. Divorce is no longer a staple in a midlife crisis, but rather, something that SEVENTEEN Magazine should probably be printing on. Headlines could read,

“How to budget for your prom AND your wedding in the same year!”

“What’s HOT: Kids raising Kids.”

“Why your Mom doesn’t really…

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Things I’m grateful for

  • Spontaneity – I’ll admit – I’m pretty type A; I plan everything out with timelines, post-its galore, and I’m organized. But you gotta live a little. The other night at 7pm I up and decided to drive 2 hours to see newly-reignited-old-flame guy (needs a new name). Did I have work the next day? Yup. Was it worth it? HELL YES. I don’t know what came over me – the weekend before last we discussed visits at some point…me thinking they’d be far off and planned. Nope – he wanted to see me, I wanted to see him (it had been 4 whole days lol), so I did it. Just grabbed my purse. Don’t think – just do.
  • Halloween candy – does this really need an explanation??
  • Impromptu dance parties – At your desk. In the car. In the bathroom mirror or anywhere in your house. “This. Is. My. Jaaaammm” I mean, so good, right?! Sometimes you just gotta let loose, and they’ll likely act as an instant pick-me-up. I know they got me through today. If all else fails…dance. (I need that on a shirt.)
  • Pink – my favorite color; I just looked around and saw seven pink objects?…most of my life is pink…ah, this is why everyone makes fun of me. Whatever, not sorry. Especially when it comes to Breast Cancer Awareness month! More pink everywhere I look and supporting a great cause? Done.

Things I’m grateful for

  • Love – something big happened this weekend. Very big. Like blast from the past old flame style. Not just some crummy text from some guy checking in. I didn’t see any of this coming, so I’m still kinda scratching my head. All I know is this: 1) I’m proud that I only freaked out for a minute, but then let myself jump in and go with it; 2) He kisses me the way I’ve always wanted to be kissed – like in the movies that takes your breath away. Phew. So many feelings. Very grateful for this one.
  • Tailgating – Grilling. Outside air. Friends. Games. Beer. Jams. Something pretty simple brings people together.
  • Online shopping/mail – the anticipation is killing me. We’re so used to just grabbing something at the store and immediately having it. But constant refresh on that tracking number? Kinda fun in a weird way lol (Both of my orders are due by EOD tomorrow – oh, happy day)
  • Hoodies – so, so warm and comfy. I will never have enough or get enough of wearing them. Please don’t come back, summer.
  • Cuddling – oh, how I missed this.

99 Random Questions

1:Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? Open…so no one can hide in there.

2:Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel? nope

3:Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out? in

4:Have you ever stolen a street sign before? No…but I’d do it.

5:Do you like to use post-it notes? I don’t want to admit how many I use daily…

6:Do you cut out coupons but then never use them? Yeah…I actually use a good amount of them though #winning

7:Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of a bees? A bear – because he can’t catch me (I ran track, come at me bro)

8:Do you have freckles? Yep – back of my left hand from driving, and…the whites of my eyes. Creepy, right?! It’s hereditary, not really noticeable. I’m cool.

9:Do you always smile for pictures? Pictures…sleeping…eating. It’s what I do.

10:What is your biggest pet peeve? Hearing someone chew; slow drivers are a close second.

11:Do you ever count your steps when you walk? Never, I walk too fast lol

12:Have you ever peed in the woods? Of course

13:What about pooped in the woods? Mm, probably in my Girl Scout days

14:Do you ever dance even if there’s no music playing? Every. Day.

15:Do you chew your pens and pencils? Gah-ross, never

16:How many people have you slept with this week? Zero. Forever single baha

17:What size is your bed? Full…yet always empty (see what I did there?)

18:What is your song of the week? Drake – Hold On We’re Going Home (makes me want to cuddle, meh)

19:Is it okay for guys to wear pink? Here’s my number.

20:Do you still watch cartoons? no

21:What’s your least favorite movie? Don’t have one

22:Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some? Classified.

23:What do you drink with dinner? Water

24:What do you dip a chicken nugget in? Sweet & sour

25:What is your favorite food? The one closest to my hand. Seriously, I eat all. day. long.     Can’t pick one.

26:What movies could you watch over and over and still love? The Princess and the Frog, Something New, Cinderella.

27:Last person you kissed/kissed you? hahahaha umm, two months ago, guy I met in a bar (don’t judge, I never do that, it happened)

28:Were you ever a boy/girl scout? YES, for a long time, it was awesome. Master Cookie Seller, rackin up badges.

29:Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine? Two conditions: I had no kids, and my parents couldn’t know. Then yeah lol

30:When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper? Can’t even remember, grade school maybe. I miss snail mail.

31:Can you change the oil on a car? NO (hi, dad)

32:Ever gotten a speeding ticket? This week? I mean, yeah…a “few”

33:Ever ran out of gas? Bah, once or twice because I’m stubborn and hate pumping gas

34:Favorite kind of sandwich? Turkey with white American cheese, hot peppers on wheat bread or a white roll (no exceptions/substitutions)

35:Best thing to eat for breakfast? Pancakes, of course. Usually eggs/cereal though

36:What is your usual bedtime? Around 10

37:Are you lazy? Like once a month lol

38:When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween? A mouse with a piece of cheese wrapped around me, an old lady, a doctor…

39:What is your Chinese astrological sign? An ox hahaha

40:How many languages can you speak? 1.5 – English; enough Spanish to survive, not fluent

41:Do you have any magazine subscriptions? Nope, ended them because they became a big recycling pile and rarely got read

42:Which are better legos or lincoln logs? Legos, duh

43:Are you stubborn? When it’s appropriate 🙂

44:Who is better…Leno or Letterman? Don’t watch either

45:Ever watch soap operas? Only one – Passions. Bring it baaackk

46:Are you afraid of heights? Not really…bungee jumping fixed that

47:Do you sing in the car? Loudly.

48:Do you sing in the shower? Sometimes

49:Do you dance in the car? Usually a tame head bob…a little shoulder rock if it’s my jam.

50:Ever used a gun? NO, they scare the crap outta me

51:Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer? 2009 for work

52:Do you think musicals are cheesy? Yep…but I’m considering buying tickets for my bday bc West Side Story is in town

53:Is Christmas stressful? Buying presents and such, no. Dealing with my immature parents, yes.

54:Ever eat a pierogi? Like once

55:Favorite type of fruit pie? Apple, hello

56:Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid? President (seriously)…a lawyer (to become President); never anything fun

57:Do you believe in ghosts? no

58:Ever have a Deja-vu feeling? All the time!

59:Take a vitamin daily? Vitamins, not anymore, I (usually) eat well; tons of supplements though (hi, GNC)

60:Wear slippers? Yess, bunnies or pandas

61:Wear a bath robe? Only if the blinds are open and I need to run downstairs

62:What do you wear to bed? Sweatpants and a t-shirt. Sexy.

63:First concert? Maroon 5

64:Wal-Mart, Target or Kmart? Wal-mart

65:Nike or Adidas? Nike

66:Cheetos Or Fritos? Cheetos…orange fingers are worth it.

67:Peanuts or Sunflower seeds? Peanuts

68:Ever hear of the group Tres Bien? nope

69:Ever take dance lessons? I did 2 years ago and briefly as a youngin

70:Is there a profession you picture your future spouse doing? I’m not getting married.

71:Can you curl your tongue? Yup

72:Ever won a spelling bee? Destroyed the ones for my grade but then got owned up against the big kids. I’m not scarred or anything.

73:Have you ever cried because you were so happy? haha yeah, a month ago when I got the call about new job

74:Own any record albums? Nope

75:Own a record player? Nope

76:Regularly burn incense? Nope

77:Ever been in love? Unfortunately.

78:Who would you like to see in concert? DRAKE or Justin Timberlake…or the three of us, private concert in my living room.

79:What was the last concert you saw? Firefly Festival 2013. Three days, too many artists to name. Epic. (ok, Zedd and Calvin Harris live changed my life)

80:Hot tea or cold tea? Hot

81:Tea or coffee? Coffee addict…Dunkin iced

82:Sugar or snickerdoodles? Just polished off a bag of snickerdoodles

83:Can you swim well? Well enough lol

84:Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? Yeah

85:Are you patient? Internally, no; externally, very

86:DJ or band, at a wedding? DJ

87:Ever won a contest? Nope

88:Ever have plastic surgery? No

89:Which are better black or green olives? Green!

90:Can you knit or crochet? haha no

91:Best room for a fireplace? Family room

92:Do you want to get married? Negative.

93:If married, how long have you been married? lol

94:Who was your HS crush? Kobe Bryant

95:Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? Eww no

96:Do you have kids? Do my 2 dogs count??

97:Do you want kids? Yesssssss

98:What’s your favorite color? Pink

99:Do you miss anyone right now? Ugh, yes, all the feels

Things I’m grateful for

So I’d like a bit more consistency on this thing here I call a blog (ha, look at me acting like my life over the next 6-8 months will be calm. Anything but…)

I really would like some kinda “regular thing”…a go-to feature or topic? I’ve noticed a common theme over the past couple of weeks as I draft blog posts in my head (c’mon, you do it too)…I’ve just had this overwhelming sense of “grateful” for a while now. Even when things haven’t been great, I catch myself smiling like an idiot (and hope no one saw it).

In the spirit of one of the first blogs I started following (if you’re not, do it now, she’s amazing), I think I’ll take Mondays as a time to reflect and be thankful for the good things I have going on – big or small. I usually find myself having a really good workout Monday morning, or reading just the right quote and coming back to that one thing all day thinking “Motivation Monday!!!” (I mean, Mondays are typically rough, so if you can focus on the good, it can really set the tone for the day and week)

(I’m starting to gross myself out with all of this positivity – let’s just go with it hahaha)

Anyways, I need to come up with some cool & catchy title (not Motivation Monday, c’mon), but for now, this is what I’ve got:

  • Feeling strongyeah, yeah – she can’t go a post without mentioning CrossFit lol But more than that – today I felt really strong. Physically, but also emotionally. It’s kinda translating. I was always a little stick of a girl, so being able to throw 135 pounds over my head, or squat about 200 pounds…is a very empowering thing. And I can’t put my finger on it, but it’s making everything else better – yesterday/this morning I got a little choked up over the family drama, but I tapped into that little place, and everything was ok. Confidence & inner strength rock.
  • Dressing up – what girl doesn’t like to play dress up? If I’m going out with friends, I’m always ready to dress it up. But my attitude in dressing for work over the past four years has been the complete opposite. I hated the thought of going to work, so it was minimal effort – I mean, who was I trying to impress? You guys are lucky if I show up in something wrinkle-free and remotely matches. I’ve also often shied away from feeling too vain or feeling like I had to hide behind makeup and clothes. But it’s ok! I’ve had this shift lately where I want to match cute outfits and I’ve been wearing (minimal) makeup to work every day. I’m even ok with wearing heels one day a week (not every day; not trying to ruin my feet) I’m kinda proud of myself for not being afraid of getting “oh, she thinks she’s cute” – actually, I wore this because it makes me feel good. Also, the whole “dress for the job you want thing” – new job has very much put me in a position to be set for life, so I’m on board with making it happen. Old/new job call for business casual, but new job is a step up given we sometimes meet with clients or have to go to the executive boardroom for meetings (fancy) #profeshtodeath lol
  • Friends – new & old – I’ve always been a friendly person, but was pretty introverted until I graduated from college. Now, I don’t care – I’ll talk to anyone, I’m like the mayor when we go out. Still, I’ve always been slow/hesitant to call someone my friend because I think people throw around the term loosely. Also, I’ve had a lot of friends screw me over/we grew apart. So it’s a sensitive spot for me – I’ll talk to anyone, but kinda stick with my core group of friends if that makes sense? But I started this year with the New Years’ Resolution mindset that I need to be more open – to stop being scared/paranoid that everyone will hurt me. I especially needed to branch out and come out of my cave after I basically took a social hiatus March-December of last year (largely driven by the falling out with The One/fed up with job sitch). Anywho, I’ve been letting myself get to know people at the gym and work without that ‘cringe’ feeling. It oddly feels nice to get to know people, and people want to get to know you, ask if you’re ok, where have you been?, come hang out with us. I feel like I get a big ol hug every day lol And I’ve even friended a bunch of people of FB (which to me feels so intimate, someone having so much info on you; not private info, but like I can sit and memorize dates and facts about you lol)
  • Forgiveness – ties back to the feeling strong thing – I’ve had exes popping up for no reason (guess I’m that awesome? jk) I’m glad that I’m able to see/speak to them without my eyes turning red or fists balling up. Instead it’s a “ah, nice to hear from you, old friend. Hope life has been good to you” (also: I know I’m hotter than any girl after me/haha you’re still single)
  • Calendar – again, after me being a hermit, I’ve been having fun filling in my Erin Condren planner with stickers and doodles for lots of work/non-work events. It’s nice to have things to look forward to in terms of stuff I can learn and memories to be made…

 

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