A big part of caring about someone is knowing when to step in/be active, and when to step away and give them space.
It’s really hard not to take things personally, but being able to do that is a tremendous help to that person as they go through something and just need time to think or breathe.
It also helps when you try to stop and think about what you’d want them to do for you in the same situation.
And you can’t always expect someone to flat out ask you to be there for them. I sure as heck don’t haha
I 100% always want to go through things on my own because I’m independent, but when someone is there for me unexpectedly without being pushy…it’s delightful and gives me the warm & fuzzies.
I also need to keep in mind that it’s all relative. Just because I can handle fifteen stressful things in my life at once doesn’t mean everyone can. Three things can be a lot for someone and I shouldn’t look at them and say “wow, that’s nothing, man up.”
For once in my life, I have nothing but “good stress” – busy at work and making progress, busting my ass at CrossFit, and studying for my exam. But everyone around me has stuff going on. It’s making me sad and I feel helpless – hence this emo post.
Moral of the story: It’s not all about you. Take a deep breath and make sure people know that you’re there for them if or when they are ready. (I’m such a grown-up)